Shattered Into One
Hey Y'all! This is our podcast about finding wholeness and healing from unresolved trauma.
I'm Jess and this is my cohost, Laura, and we are her to have an open and honest conversation about our struggles with, and our journey through, mental illness.
I am a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor and Laura is an Early Childhood Development Professor, and together we are going to be discussing books that have helped us overcome our fears and taught us how to embrace our authentic selves.
We combine academic research, biblical truth, and personal experiences to help others grow in their faith and develop resilience against the darkness of this world.
Faith is the assurance of things hoped for and the conviction of things unseen. Faith is what heals betrayal and builds trust.
When we find ourselves unable to trust, we are oftentimes left feeling confused and alone. We are lost and wandering, looking for ways to put our seemingly shattered lives back together.
For myself and Laura, the answer was, and still is, Jesus.
Trust is the foundation for all healthy and balanced relationships and if you want to have healthy and balanced relationships, you need to be, in fact, healthy and balanced.
As a counselor, my priority is helping my clients learn how to trust themselves and the decisions they make. This begins with making a commitment to your journey through the many stages of growth and development no matter how messy and uncertain things may seem.
It means making choices that lead you in the direction of your desired destinations and holding yourself accountable to, and responsible for, those choices; even when they produce undesirable outcomes.
This means simultaneously accepting moments of failure and celebrating moments of success.
In order to successfully function in life we must learn to be flexible and adaptable to the changes happening around us, and we can do this much better when we know who we are and why we are here.
You have a purpose and my purpose is to speak life into you until you discover who you were created to be!
Shattered Into One
SIO Podcast Episode 23: Everday Narcissism Chapters 7&8
Childhood Lying Experiences and Influences
Jessica and Laura discussed personal experiences with lying, particularly in childhood, and how societal and family pressures can influence honesty. Jessica shared her experience of being taught to lie at a young age to avoid punishment, while Laura recounted being coached to lie by her grandmother to impress others. They also touched on the concept of lying as a survival mechanism in certain social contexts. The conversation included a brief mention of Jessica's recent illness and her dog's health issues.
Childhood Attachments and Adult Relationships
Jessica and Laura discussed their experiences with childhood attachment issues and how they affect their adult relationships. Jessica shared how her mother's secure attachment was overshadowed by her father's neglect, leading to trust issues and a pattern of attracting partners who engage in future-faking. Laura described her father's inconsistent presence and promises, which also impacted her ability to trust. They explored how these childhood experiences influence their current relationships and emotional well-being. The conversation touched on the importance of self-care and setting boundaries while navigating the needs of others.
Truth, Faith, and Professional Growth
Jessica and Laura discussed the importance of discerning truth and maintaining a relationship with God, emphasizing the need for absolute truth in a world of relative perspectives. Jessica shared her personal experiences and beliefs about moral teachings and the role of the Holy Spirit in guiding decisions. Laura mentioned her upcoming transition from Lot 25 and the pushback she has faced from family, which Jessica interpreted as a sign of growth and development. They also discussed the value of listening and intuition in their professional roles, with Jessica highlighting how the Holy Spirit provides insights during client interactions.
Overcoming Victim Mentality and Growth
Jessica and Laura discussed the concept of victim energy and its impact on personal growth and relationships. Jessica shared her personal experiences with overcoming victim mentality and the importance of making conscious choices. Laura expressed her realization of codependent patterns in her relationships and the struggle to assert her authenticity while facing societal pressures. They explored the role of shame in their lives, particularly how societal expectations and personal guilt influence their decisions. Both agreed on the significance of self-compassion, making intentional choices, and seeking personal growth through prayer and reflection.
